A while back I wrote a post specifically for single people in the month of love. As I’ve been in this category for a long time, I know how hard it can be to come out of your shell and start seeing people again. Online dating has many advocates, but also many who say it is not reliable, that people are not authentic and that you never really know who you are talking to. I believe that with enough caution, online dating can be fun, and you might actually meet interesting people. Accessibility, matching according to your preferences, finding people who are genuinely interested in dating, are only some of the advantages of this type of dating.
Among those who give it a try, many wonder if there’s room for spontaneity, or if it all comes down to science. A recent study suggests the key to online dating is to aim high, keep your message brief, and be patient. Having a well-thought strategy can help, but at the end of the day, I believe sincerity, being yourself, and knowing what you are looking for will help you more than any plans you create ahead of time. Here’s why.
The web gives you an infinite number of possibilities when you want to meet new people. A site I like is welovedates.com. Here you can choose the type of dating you are interested in. Their main dating site is for Americans, and is, as they call it, “for the real world”. What this means is anyone can register, and look for people with various interests. However, if you know from the start you want only certain type of people, WeLoveDates can help you. For example, you can pick their site dedicated to people in their 40s, or older. Or you can restrict by location, look only for people from the UK, Australia, or more. Sure, the wide variety can be intimidating. That’s why I believe knowing what you want and being authentic is the key.
The chance to match according to your preferences is amazing. Some sites even offer personality testing, which can increase your chance to find what you are looking for. The con? It can be tempting to be strict with regards to the traits you want. If you start limiting your pool by looking only for people who listen to a certain type of music or read certain authors, you might miss out on amazing people whose only defect is to not listen to the same music as you.
Options for Christians
If you are a Christian finding yourself in a church where everyone is married or engaged, you might feel you’ll be single forever. For many years online dating was a taboo subject for Christians. The chances of meeting someone with the same beliefs felt slim, and many didn’t even think of trying. At the moment, however, there are quite a few Christian dating sites that offer the safety of knowing that those you meet share your belief system. Again, this goes to show the variety and flexibility that online dating offers.
It is easy to communicate
Online dating makes communication easy. It takes the awkwardness of thinking about how you look, how the other might be reading your body language, your tone. You can just focus on communicating and getting to know each other. Many websites offer the option to chat without leaving the website, so you don’t have to worry about giving away your Facebook, Skype ID or phone number. You can talk until you feel it is safe to move on to the next level.
If you’ve been single for a while and feel all your friends are married, engaged or not interesting enough, online dating can be a good option. Remember to be authentic, don’t limit your pool with excessive filters, but also aim high and know what you want. A new love story could be just a few clicks away.
Disclaimer: This is a sponsored post, but all opinions are my own.