How to reach your goals in 2018
New year, new you. I’m sure you’re tired of hearing that by now. And if you’re like most people, at some point either at the end of December or now as January begins, you started setting goals for the new year. Maybe you want to eat healthier, exercise more, go out more, go out less, find love and get married, travel the world. The list can go on forever. But how do you set the right goals so that you actually stick to them?
Reality is that most people give up and forget about the goals they set for the new year in just a month or two. If you are a long time gym member, you probably noticed the annoying trend of January being the most crowded month at the gym. And then the numbers slowly start decreasing, until December is the less crowded month at the gym. You might see some variation in the spring when girls work hard for the ‘bikini body’, but other than that, the trend is real. Lets face it, those are the people that decided the new year was gonna be the year when they’d start going to the gym X times a week. By March, they’ve completely let go of that goal. I’m going to share with you some tips and tricks that have helped me set the right goals and stay on track till the end.
Progress not Perfection
First off, try to be realistic when setting goals. Sure, sky is the limit, but if you set an impossible goal, you’ll give up sooner or later. Many people who have never worked out a day in their lives decide they wanna look like some super model by the end of January. When the 1st of February comes and they are far from looking like the model, they give up. They don’t look at all the progress they made, because they didn’t reach their goal.
I could give you 100 more examples. But I’m sure you get the point. Strive for progress, not perfection. Maybe your goals requires a huge change in your body, or maybe they are about starting your own business when everything is barely just an idea in your head. Be realistic and accept these goals may not be accomplished in 1 or 2 months. And that’s ok. It’s progress that matters. Put in half an hour a day of work towards starting that business. Don’t let the idea fade. Work for it, but accept it might take time.
Don’t overwhelm your schedule
Whether you want to start working out, start your blog, your own business, there is a risk that even if you do set small goals you overwork yourself. You do not leave any time for relaxation, for friends or for the things you love and use all your free time working towards those goals.
Putting in the work is great, but if you don’t take any time off you’ll end up so exhausted, you’ll start believing what you’re reaching towards is not doable. Set aside half an hour a day for something you love. Alternatively, you can go for one day a week when you stop working all together. If you are an overachiever (like me) and don’t see that possible, then here’s a tip: make relaxation a goal for the new year. Maybe add reading at least one book each month, or going to the swimming pool, or to the mall with friends. Make it an actual goal! It won’t feel like wasted time.
Write your goals
A simple trick, but effective. If you write down your goals they are easier to follow. I will add something here.
Don’t just write the goal. Write the reason for it.
That way, each time you look at the list, feeling tempted to give up, you’ll remember why you started in the first place. That first motivation, before you realized how hard it would be, that has a huge impact.
Don’t beat yourself up
So it didn’t happen as you dreamed it. It turned out that idea wasn’t all that good. That’s OK. Failure is a just another step on the road to success. So what if that idea wasn’t good? Learn from it, move on, set a different goal. You are not giving up. You are just switching to plan B… or C… or D. Plenty of letters in the alphabet. You are not failing. You are learning. So learn what didn’t work. And be better next time.
Find an accountability buddy
Ideally a close friend or partner with whom you can share your goals. Maybe you can return the favor and cheer each other up. No one like that in your life? No problem. Thankfully, it’s the 21st century. If you use social media, you’re answer could be there. There are many groups for support for various areas. Join them and you’ll find quite a few people who’ll help you stay on track. You could even join us on our Facebook page (link at the bottom of the page) and we’ll help you stay on track with any goals you have. Finally, if you just want to keep your plans to yourself, there are many accountability apps out there. They can be very helpful especially with tracking your progress. No excuses!
I have a motto on my bedroom wall: ‘Obstacles are what you see when you take your eye off the goal.’ Giving up is not my style. I just want to do something that’s worthwhile.Chris Burke
These are some of the tips & tricks that have helped me achieve my goals over time. Do you have more tips? Share them in the comments below.