A fresh start
It’s the 4th day of 2018. The year has officially started, I’m back to work and life seems to be getting back to normal. I don’t usually make resolutions or set goals anymore. Sometimes, I might. If you haven’t already, check out my post about reaching your goals for the new year – here. But this post is not about goals. It is about getting a fresh start.
Wether it is at the beginning of a new year, or a new month, or just a new day, we all need a fresh start from time to time. And it is usually to leave behind failures and heartache and disappointment for things that didn’t go our way. We want a fresh start, but we spend most of the time thinking about what went wrong and criticizing ourselves. We strive to do more, be more, work harder, be bolder. Pause. Remember to pause, dear one. Give yourself grace. You’re only human. You’re doing your best.
Work well, not hard.
Gabby Bernstein says:
Happiness is a choice.
Well, let me tell you something else.
Stress is a choice.
Busy is a choice.
What will you choose?
Choose to give yourself grace. To love yourself and to accept yourself with all your flaws and imperfections. They are what make you unique. There’s no one quite like you. And that is your strength.
Let your light shine through you. Forget your critics. And most importantly, don’t be your own critic. If you don’t appreciate yourself, how can you expect others to do it? You might find in time, as you allow yourself to be unapologetically you that some people start drifting away. Consider that a relief! They were not meant to be around you anyway. They stayed as long as you were small, as long as you behaved according to their needs. The moment you start being the strong, bright person that you truly are, they might not take it. You might become too strong for them, stronger then them. And they don’t want that.
I know loneliness can be daunting and hard. But trust that the right people will find you. It is only a matter of time until you start attracting the right people in your life.
We always want more…
And how couldn’t we? We live in a society that puts a huge emphasis on more. But with “more” of something, inevitably we get less of something else. More work – but less sleep, more money – less free time, more friends (especially on social media) – less real love and connection, more action in our lives – less peace in our hearts.
How different would our lives be if one of those goals we set at each fresh start would be to sit still and be quite for just 15 minutes every day. Immediately, you start thinking that’s lazy, unproductive, procrastination. Let me tell you something: taking care of you is not lazy, selfish or unproductive! It’s a must. The alternative is depression and ultimately being burned out from all the exhaustion. Balance, my friends, is key.
The power of being quite
There’s power in sitting still, listening to your heart. Listen to your thoughts. Let them come, then go. And be gentle to yourself. Turn of all devices even if it’s only for 15 minutes before bed.
Striving for more is good. What if we strive for more rest this year? More love? More peace? Would that really be such a bad thing? Do you really think it would make you unproductive? I did. For a very long time. But I learned the hard way that that’s a lie that society wants us to believe. When I finally found the strength to unwind, to give myself grace for my mistakes, for my weaknesses, the biggest shift happened. I found my creativity again. I didn’t feel caged anymore.
We all need a fresh start
So the next time you want yours remember to prioritize well. You can’t do it all and that’s ok. You are not for everyone. And that is also ok. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. You’ll be amazed how many things you can accomplish when you do that.
Stress is a choice. Busy is a choice. But happiness is also a choice. Choose well and the rewards will be amazing!